Fear of success is something I’ve self-diagnosed. Yep, I think WebMD said I have all the symptoms.
As I mentioned before, one of my interests is making jewelry. When we moved into this house, the previous owner had a workshop in the basement and I remember seeing it and knowing this would be my new jewelry studio! We just had to buy this house – the workshop would be my Girl Craft Cave!
Wood workshop before
Wood workshop before
Closeup of cabinets before
As you can see, it needed some work. I spent several months putting Drylock on the walls (a thick, sandy paint-like substance that helps stop moisture), sanding and painting the cabinets, painting the concrete floors, and adding new stainless steel cabinet hardware. I don’t skimp.
Time doesn’t wait for perfection. Time has got other things to do while you hem, haw, tweak, plan, and strategize.
You see, I haven’t written much lately because I haven’t felt very inspired. And, in spite of writing a recent article encouraging you to stop caring what people think, my not feeling inspired is really code for: I didn’t have anything that I thought was good enough. Oh, the hypocrisy! I needed a strong kick in the pants and a good talking to.
Today I came across the type of obstacle that I seem to immediately jump on as if, somewhere in the depth of my lazy butt brain, I’m looking for any excuse to quit. Do you know what I mean? Or am I just a big sissy? Continue reading
It’s Friday night. It really isn’t much different than any other Friday night you might see me spending in my early 40s. I mean, there certainly aren’t any “keggers” to attend. Bono stopped calling. And I’m pretty sure my cats have their own plans.
But it’s Memorial Day weekend. I imagine most of you are BBQ-ing it up or pre-gaming for your Saturday afternoon BBQ. If you’re not doing either of those, I hope you are at least watching Shark Tank with some popcorn and your significant other and not a complete and total
loser winner like me.
Oh, me? Oh don’t worry about me. I’m just sitting here at the computer with my TV off (applause please) and trying to write award winning blog posts. Because I will find a way out of my cubicle. Tomorrow morning, I will be taking a break from blogging to take my sad little basement jewelry studio by storm. Baby steps, baby.
Peace out, partiers.
One trick I’ve discovered that works for me when I have no motivation is to find like-minded individuals who have similar goals. Remember the buddy system? It doesn’t matter if your buddies don’t have the exact same goals that you do, but they should have goals they want to accomplish and they should be willing to give and receive support.
When I work for someone else, I work very hard for them. I do everything in my power to get the job done. When it comes to setting personal goals, I tend to procrastinate and not keep the promises I make to myself. The biggest advantage for me to having a support system is having someone to hold me accountable. I don’t know about you, but I need a serious periodic kick in the pants when it comes to my creative pursuits. Continue reading
Aside from the obvious way to get out of working in a cubicle, like finding a new job, let’s talk about ways to stop working for someone else – FOREVER.
First, you must think about what activities bring you joy. It might seem natural to look at what areas you excel in, but we don’t always love to do what we’re good at. I, for instance, am very good at jobs that require me to sort through heavy piles of paper in a gray cubicle. But let me tell you – Paper and I have a very tumultuous relationship. Don’t tell Paper – but I’ve been looking for a way to break up with it for some time now. Continue reading
It’s one thing to get this blog up and going, and another to actually start a regular routine of writing. I’m sure the same thing applies to any goal you or I might have. You can plan and plan, dream all day long and still, you actually have to DO THE WORK. And sometimes, it’s not pretty.
This is usually the point where my motivation stamina fizzles out. Yep, right at the very beginning. A tiny confession here: it doesn’t feel like the beginning because I’ve spent umpteen months planning and thinking about doing it. And right about now I feel like – whew I’m tired – time for a break!
I think taking baby steps can be very frustrating and, frankly, annoying. I mean, we all want instant gratification, don’t we? When I stare at a long-term goal it looks insurmountable. Some of us give up just looking at our creative to-do lists before we ever start. As much as I hate to admit it, baby steps is the only way to achieve your goals. The hard truth is: DEAL WITH IT. Accept it. Taking baby steps now may feel like you’re not getting anywhere, but you’re always inching your way toward your goal. Continue reading